If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet. – Matthew 10:14 (NIV)
At what point do you move on from “that thing” or “that relationship” which chokes you, anchors you, or vexes you? The story is told far too often of people who remain in bad relationships in order that they might be able to “fix it”. Or worse yet… “fix them”.
As Christians, we aren’t immune to abusive relationships. In fact, we often find ourselves yoked to people who want nothing more than to take advantage of a “good natured” Christian. The idea that Christian men are required to turn the other cheek, become passive pushovers, or denounce confrontation is false.
Jesus Christ was hardly the pushover. He walked toward adversity – not from it. Jesus stood in the face of bullies and leaned into the arena. There is hardly a moment in the ministry of Jesus when He wasn’t pushing back, calling out the wicked, and boldly stepping into center stage. He also teaches us when to walk away.
It’s important that we understand the difference between running from difficult relationships – and shaking them off our sandals like dirt. Yes, it’s okay to walk away from people who refuse to hear truth and respect you. As Christian men – we are obligated to hang in there until we have given God’s truth to those “hard to love” people. We are also instructed to kick those jokers to the curb when they reject Christ’s principles in deed and word.
There are far too many people in the world hungry for God’s truth for us to get distracted by those who want nothing to do with Christ. You can’t fix them – you’ll likely end up joining them if you hang in there long enough.
Listen to this – you can’t save anyone. That job belongs solely to Jesus Christ. All you can do is offer truth and yoke yourself to people hungry to know more about Christ. Don’t let the world “use you” because you are a “good guy”. Shake those jokers off your sandals and move on. Someone else will come along and pick up where you left off. Got it?
THE RIGHT NEXT STEP
Name one relationship that keeps you twisted up – and pray about it today.
PRAY: God, I want to be effective for your kingdom. You’ve called me to live bold according to your commands and You have asked me to tell the world about you. Shut down the relationships that keep me from executing Your plan. Show me how to move on. Amen.